©
2019 Dale M. Sides
Before
unearthing my findings, which I realize could generate a visceral reaction, I
want to stress that this paper contains insight that could genuinely help transgenders,
homosexuals, and schizophrenics—and their loved ones—to better understand their
thinking and behavior. In no way are my
findings intended to be a condemnation of anyone. Rather, the intent is
simply to present an honest discussion of fundamental problems that appear to trouble
the overall LGBTQ community. The facts are well documented by statistical
evidence, yet the information seems either pushed to the side or denied—in
part, I believe, because of the emotional and even volatile intensity of much
of the LGBTQ community.
After
hearing first-hand reports from friends involved in an Austin Independent
School District (AISD) meeting and observing some violent behavior of members
of the LGBTQ community who were also attending the meeting, I resolved to
understand what was behind such behavior. I began scrolling through news
stories and psychological studies and also had a discussion with a dear friend
who at one time was a part of this community. After listening to him and
reading numerous articles, I believe I may have an answer. There seems to be an
identity crisis that drives many of them to a semblance of schizophrenia (and in
some cases, the actual illness), resulting in multiple personalities. As they
group together to validate one another, they feed off of each other’s
insecurities and bitter attitudes, and this yields a seed bed for mental
illness. From what I have observed and learned, I believe that at the root of
this identity crisis and its ensuing confusion lies self-hatred.
In
the AISD meeting, the discussion was about transgender indoctrination within
the district’s schools, as early as kindergarten age. As you can imagine, it was
a divided group, and yet it was absolutely amazing to see the level of confusion
coming from those in the room from the LGBTQ community. They were belligerent
and offensive—to the point of verbally assaulting a little old lady who only
said that she did not want her grandchildren taught sex education of any kind in kindergarten. A large
transgender “woman” was so abusive to this woman that she (the grandmother) had
to be taken away for medical help. The issue of transgender education in the
school system was not even mentioned within the last portion of the meeting
because the LGBTQ community kept screaming, “You hate us! You hate us! You hate
us!” This adamant and judgmental reaction was frankly uncalled for and way off
the charts, considering the civility that proceeded it. It was seriously
stunning to see the level of apparent insanity in almost the entire group. This
is why I can only ponder such a detrimental mental illness as schizophrenia.
As I
thought about it, I remembered the violent incident in the Bible where the
LGBTQ community of Sodom and Gomorrah attempted to assault and sexually violate
the angels of the Lord who were staying with Lot and his family (Genesis 19). These
were violent men with rape on their minds. (I believe that could qualify for
insanity.) These sexual perpetrators were thankfully smitten blind by the angels
before they could carry out their evil intentions, and the whole city was soon destroyed
with fire and brimstone.
Judges
19 relates a similar event where sons of Belial, also sexual deviants, wanted
to molest a sojourning man of God in the city of Gibeah. They were beating down
the door in rage and sexual fury demanding that the visitor be given to them for
their pleasure. Sadly, the visitor instead appeased them by giving them his concubine
who they took and sexually violated all night long, till she was found dead on
the doorstep in the morning. That is called rape and cold-blooded murder—both
of which are insane, meaning borne out of unsound minds! It was considered such
a heinous act that the entire nation of Israel descended upon the city of
Gibeah and the tribe of Benjamin who inhabited it at the time to decimate the
sin of that city.
This is a serious issue. Even political
opponents normally have the decency to exercise civility when they disagree
with one another, so why is it that the miniscule portion of the population who
call themselves transgender do not possess the self-control to keep their
emotions in check? I believe it is because there is a certain level of insanity
in the minds of most transgendered victims, even to the degree of
schizophrenia. Many of those within the entire LGBTQ community fall into the
same category, and there is an explanation for this.
Any form of sexual perversion, if pursued, can eventually
lead to unsound (insane) thinking—often to the level of an “anything goes”
attitude in its quest to obtain a more satisfying, intense sexual experience or
“high.” This is evident in pedophilia, sex trafficking, pornography, rape,
bestiality, and even murder.
Note: I recognize this
may be offensive to some, but please bear with me, because this insight can
bring freedom to those who have been victimized by sexual sins and abuse. Regardless
of your belief system, please take note of the biblical passages I’ve shared and
the remedy of the problem at that time
(annihilation). The reasoning was that an aggregate of schizophrenics was
uncontrollable.
In
our day and time, there are answers available from both the truth of the
Scriptures and from psychology. I searched for these because I genuinely desire
to help people who want out of their bondage. Although years ago there were a
string of online articles stating that male homosexuals have a shorter life
expectancy than male heterosexuals, the “supporting data” has since been
refuted or at least become outdated; however,
I believe there is some validity to this because of the levels of anxiety and
stress homosexuals often experience. My heart goes out to them and I hope
to offer a potential remedy in this article.
If we
can understand why someone acts the way they do, we will be more likely to help
them or at least have compassion for them. If we don’t understand why they act
the way they do, then we can easily judge and criticize them.
Understanding
Schizophrenia
Within
the psychiatric community, the word “schizophrenic” has been used as an umbrella
term to cover a broad spectrum of mental abnormalities, perhaps because of its
various manifestations based upon the identity in which it was formed.
Schizophrenic
personalities are formed by the mind’s self-image, also known as the spirit of
man. The “alter personality” is constructed within the real person because he/she
hates who they are, and this attitude of self-hatred eventually forms a new
self that they desire to identify with. When the alter personality takes on the
real person’s opposite gender, it is due to a sexual perversion which has
self-hatred at its root. This hatred often targets their Creator for “making
them wrongly;” and then as their mind becomes more and more warped, it begins
to extend out towards anyone who opposes their new self-image.
The
Greek word phrenia refers to the mind’s thoughts and activities; and the
Greek word schizo means “to divide asunder.” Since the mind is basically
our soul and self-image, when it is divided asunder, a different person emerges
who conflicts with our true identity. Because the different person who emerges
is not the real person, their mental struggles will lead to even more confusion
(and possibly more splits) within their soul.
Several
years ago I published a book, Mending
Cracks in the Soul, which deals with healing wounds in the mind caused by trauma.
After years of helping such individuals, I became somewhat familiar with mental
aberrations and injuries within the mind and soul. Most, if not all, people are
negatively affected by hurtful incidents in their lives. Some of these are so
powerful that they can produce a crack within the person’s soul or mind, which
can be referred to as a “trauma.” A person who has been traumatized can readily
slip into a mental dysfunction which, if not properly cared for, can lead to schizophrenia.
From
my experience of ministering to victims of trauma, I have come to the
conclusion that there is no trauma quite like the sexual violation of
innocence. It ruptures the person’s spirit because their will was violated, and
even more so if it was often violated by a trusted adult in their life. Sexual
violation not only cracks the soul, but it can also break the spirit. When
innocence is sexually violated, the natural response is generally either 1) a
crushing of the soul and feelings of guilt, or 2) the emotion of anger and the
eruption of hatred from the soul. Vengeance silently begins to grow, blaming
either the perpetrator or their parents whom they perceive did not protect
them. This is often the background of those within the LGBTQ community.
According to an online
article in “The Stream,” 74% of bisexuals were sexually violated as a child.
And that’s why it
was no surprise when a 2009 report prepared for a bisexual health summit revealed that
74 percent of bisexuals had been sexually abused as children.
The
same article says, “As explained candidly by the lesbian feminist and
academic Camille Paglia, ‘Every single gay person I know has some sort of drama
going on, back in childhood. Something was happening that we’re not allowed to
ask about anymore.’ (She was speaking of bad relationships with parents as well
as sexual abuse or other factors.)” Other statistics agree with this percentage
also.
This is what I am referring
to when I speak of people being victimized. A sexual victimization leaves the
deepest injuries in a child and can even result in leading them into deviant
sexual practices. Depending upon the situation, as the young child is lured
into the abuse, there can be a sense of pleasure and shame mixed together that
leaves a chaotic impression within their soul. The memory is absorbed, planting
the seeds of a broken identity and a perverse understanding of sexual intimacy.
Sexual deviance is not
always attributed to sexual victimization. Homosexuality can also stem from emotional
or verbal abuse from one or both parents, and this too can cause trauma that
cracks the soul and sows seeds for gender discontent. This kind of abuse can prevent
the child from having a natural draw to the opposite sex. A domineering mother can
unknowingly foster a male homosexual by constantly controlling him, leaving him
with a distaste for women; likewise, an abusive father can drive his daughter
away from the association of men. According to a leading feminist and lesbian, some
form of abuse is almost always present in the past of those in the LGBTQ
community.
The
anthropological explanation of why men or women are the way they are is dependent
upon two factors: nature and nurture. There has never been and never will be a
genetic test that says someone should or should have been a different sex. It
doesn’t exist because the evidence is already manifested in their body. The sex
of the individual is among the first cellular divisions that occur in the womb and
the external appendages blatantly show the gender. So conclusively, the cause
of this aberration is not nature/genetics, but nurture—how the child is raised,
including incidents that formulate their whole being. Generally speaking, the
bottom-line cause of both transgenderism and homosexuality is that they were
victimized as children. Predictable emotions from the abuse are resentment and self-hatred
(if they blamed themselves), and/or hatred toward others if the abuse happened
against their will.
What
about Homosexuals? There
is a basic difference between a homosexual and a transgender, even though both
of them have an identity crafted according to abuse and the corresponding resentment.
A homosexual is usually a victim in the initial stages who found pleasure in
the attention and fulfillment of lust. Instead of denying the trauma, they eventually
accept it as pleasurable and identify with an alternative lifestyle (even
though perhaps it is more of a “deathstyle.”)
I
believe the reason for the shorter life expectancy of homosexuals that I
mentioned earlier is due largely to either heart issues or suicide. These quite
possibly stem from the perpetual stress and anxiety of trying to be someone
they are not and the subsequent guilt
and shame (or the attempted suppression of them). Most of us would agree that
homosexuals can choose to live an alternate lifestyle, but their bodies know
what and who they were designed to be. Our
bodies do not lie. The Bible says in Romans 1:27 that they receive in
themselves the recompense of their error which is adequate for them. When it
comes to the theory of a shorter life expectancy, it seems logical to me that
part of “the recompense of their error” could be the higher levels of stress
and anxiety caused by their false identity and shame. I believe homosexuality
carries a premature death sentence because the conflict of guilt and shame
consumes them.
It’s
a pity because some of the homosexual community are quiet and peaceful and do
not deserve to be classified with the militant transgenders and those who are
violent about their identity. They are endeavoring to live their lives in
quietness and tranquility, yet the death threat still looms over them because
of the deathstyle they have chosen. It is easy to see how a homosexual
lifestyle can lead to schizophrenia and transgenderism.
About
Transgenderism and Schizophrenia. When I mentioned my consideration of transgenderism and
schizophrenia to my lovely wife, she furrowed her brow and said, “Really?” In
an effort to defend myself, I did a web search to see if anyone else had
considered this. Surprisingly, I found 12 different articles that pondered the
same point.
The reason for the
consideration is this: schizophrenia is rooted in the person not wanting to be
who they are. This is the perfect description of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Mr.
Hyde was the fulfillment of who Dr. Jekyll wanted to be, and I believe this
parallels the condition of transgenders. Their definitive statement is, “I do
not like me; I want to be someone else.” This is the condition of schizophrenia. The individual (phreia) divides (schizo) his spirit into another personality. It is a deliberate
decision and this is fundamental in understanding how to potentially treat it.
The root of
schizophrenia is rooted in who the real person wants to become. This is why the
manifestations of it are so diverse: it is the projection of who the real
person wants to become, or the morbidity of not being who they want to be. The
human spirit is so powerful that it can actually create another self, totally
different than the real person. To understand schizophrenia, you must
understand the person that has been created out of the “divided-self.” The
divided-self will be the personification of who the real person wants to be.
This
differs from those with multiple personalities. A multiple personality is an
alternative self that the real person associates with and enters into, often
stemming from the incident that initially cracked their soul. It is most often an
unwanted intrusion and, as such, can potentially be easily remedied. This is
one of the reasons I wrote Mending Cracks
in the Soul several years ago. However, if the individual decides that they
want to become their alter-self, a
multiple personality can quickly morph into schizophrenia. If that happens, the
erratic behavior will accelerate and formulate a rationale for its existence.
The
decision to become someone other than who they are can be understood from the scripture
that says that they “did not like to retain God in their knowledge,” because
they are going against who God designed them to be (Romans 1:28). In a sense,
they re-create themselves into this new alter-self (thus dividing their soul);
and by doing so, they become their own god. This is a fast track to insanity
because the new “divided-self” now has no logic or purpose other than to legitimize
its new identity; and since the persona was forged in self-hatred, hate becomes
their basic driving force. I believe that is why so much of the transgender culture
exudes an attitude of hatred. The schizophrenic has to constantly explain why
he/she exists, and it basically boils down to the fact that he or she hates God
for making them with the body parts they have, instead of the way they think He
should have made them. This hatred is at the very root of their new identity
and it becomes the dominant trait of their divided self.
Of
course, there are many schizophrenics who are not transgender, but this article
is not about them. Transgenders are a specific type of schizophrenic, and this
particular kind is rooted so deeply in anger and hatred that it often manifests
in violence and hatred. The real issue—the
truth that their transgender personality is founded and produced out of
self-hatred and God-hatred—is hidden.
It’s
important to understand the root of this hatred—whether it be towards self,
God, or an abuser. Once the root is understood, then an important part of the
remedy must include forgiveness. In the case of transgenderism, the person they
need to forgive first is themselves for being deceived into not liking who God
made them to be. They may never have been sexually violated, but if they were emotionally
bullied or enticed into a desire to be someone else, forgiveness is still
necessary. Perhaps he or she was bullied by others of the same gender which
made them want to identify with the opposite gender. They may have been called
names because of physical weaknesses or variations from the “normal” male image
or the “normal” female image. A young person’s soul can be hurt by the cruel
ridicule of insensitive peers, and the injury can be so severe that they no
longer want to be themselves anymore. Out of a need to protect themselves, he/she
may begin to congregate with those of the opposite gender to find solace in
identifying with that gender, and thus begins the formation of a divided-self.
The
synthesis of the transgender schizophrenic is that the divided-self, or the
false identity, is a projection of who and what the real self wants to be. Because of their perpetual
battle against those who oppose them, the transgendered schizophrenic divided-self’s
code of beliefs ends up being hatred towards their opponents. This is because
the seed of their alter-ego is hatred.
When they begin chanting, “You hate us!
You hate us! You hate us!” the proper response is, “No, the problem is that you hate you.”
The
Potential Remedy. My
purpose for exposing these lies is for the dysfunctions to be eliminated and
the whole person emerge without scar or remorse. However, the mandatory
requirement for this is the application of the universal remedy for most mental
illnesses: forgiveness.
Regardless
of the type of abuse you have suffered, forgiveness is absolutely mandatory. Perhaps
those who caused the cracks in your soul did not sexually violate you but
verbally berated you or physically violated you in a non-sexual manner. Perhaps
bullies pushed the buttons in you that caused you to condemn and even hate yourself.
Forgive them. Hurt people hurt you;
and hurt people go on to hurt others. The hurt cycle continues until someone
decides to stop it, and forgiveness is the key to stopping it. Hate works the
same way. It perpetuates until someone decides to forgive. Unforgiveness and bitterness
will consume your soul, body, and spirit and will most assuredly lead to a
premature death. Forgive the person(s) who
violated you.
The universal remedy in
all homosexuality, transgenderism, and schizophrenia is forgiveness. Unforgiveness
embitters the soul, and there is definitive truth to the saying that bitterness
is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Only forgiveness
will purge your soul of the trauma that was inflicted by others and remove the
scars of dysfunction. Homosexuals, transgenders, and anyone else who is holding
onto resentment need to forgive the offenders who violated them, regardless of
how or when the violation took place.
Next,
it is important to admit that you have been deceived and forgive yourself for
allowing it to happen. I know a woman who was in deep sexual sin but now is totally
delivered and lives by the word of her testimony. She said, “The only way to
get over it is to own it, confess your guilt, ask God to forgive you, and then
forgive yourself.” Self-hatred is the major scheme of schizophrenia and is also
part of the problem in homosexuality because of not accepting who you were made
to be and not liking the real you. Own it
and forgive yourself.
I
have a dear friend who has been delivered from transgenderism. He is back with
his wife and family and is open to share his testimony about his deliverance. I
called and asked him questions as a part of the research for this article. He
said, “I believed a lie and I had to own it. I asked my family for forgiveness
and they forgave me, but the real trick was admitting I was wrong and asking
God to forgive me for denying what He said about me.”
He
also said something that impacted me deeply. He said, “Of all the ministers I
dealt with through the years of gender identity dysfunction, you were the only
one who did not tell me that I would go to hell. You told me that there would
be serious consequences in eternity for my decision, but that God is bigger
than sex and that the Holy Spirit in me was eternal and that it would not leave
me if I changed my sex. The whole time I was deceived, I remembered that you
said that God would forgive me if I repented but that I was going to do a lot
of harm to myself and my family because I was selfish.” He concluded, “If I had
not believed that God would forgive me, I would have never turned back.”
There
is a lesson for all of us in forgiveness. Perhaps some of us need to ask God to
forgive us for being judgmental over someone or something we did not
understand. There is wisdom in the old saying, “You should never judge a man until
you have walked a mile in his shoes.” Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird said it this way,
“You never really know a man until you understand things from his point of
view, until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” The vast majority,
if not all, of the LGBTQ community has been abused and most of them, sexually. The
abuse does not need to be magnified but mortified—and that is done through
forgiveness and love.
The
bottom line is that you need God’s forgiveness for rejecting who He made you to
be. Romans 1:28 (NIV) says, “Furthermore, just as they did not think it
worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved
mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.” This means that an
intentional decision was made to neglect Him and ignore His unction. This
attitude eventually hardens the heart to the point of God allowing you to go
your own deceived way. Praise God for His mercy and forgiveness and the blood
of Jesus that covers the sins of mankind—all
of us!
In
inner healing and deliverance it is necessary, in situations of multiple
personalities or self-divided schizophrenics, for the personalities to become
one. This is done for multiple personalities by merging the personalities and
finally dismissing the alter after the trauma is resolved. In schizophrenic
situations, it is necessary to tell the alter self to go away—often multiple
times—just as an alcoholic or drug addict must tell their temptations. Take charge of your mind so that you are the
one determining your thoughts.
Inner
healing is typically a process that takes time but it starts with a change of thinking and a continual confession of
deliverance and victory. Homosexuality, transgenderism, and schizophrenia can potentially be healed through
forgiveness and the abolishment of self-hatred. The ultimate goal is to love God who made you beautiful and to love
yourself as He does.
Pray
for the LGBTQ community to lay down their hatred/arms and admit that they have
been hurt and deceived. Pray that they will ask for help. Pray for discernment, wisdom, and love to guide us in our treatment of
one another.
Important Note: On the very day we
were about to post this blog, an article was released by World Net Daily
entitled “FORMER TRANSGENDERS WARN SUPREMES TO LEAVE SEX ALONE.” (See https://www.wnd.com/2019/10/former-transgenders-warn-supremes-leave-sex-alone/.) This confirms
the timeliness of our posting! The World Net Daily article reports how nine
transgenders testified before the Supreme Court in an effort to reveal the
dangers of becoming a transgender and the consequences of gender dysphoria.
These
nine individuals had the courage and
compassion for their fellow men and women by standing up and confessing the
error they made and warning others and the government to not change the legal definition
of “sex.”
“When
Congress wrote the 1964 Civil Rights Act, which forbids discrimination based on
‘sex,’ it was understood to mean ‘male and female.’”
“[Walt] Heyer [one of
the nine] is a man who was diagnosed with gender dysphoria, took hormones and
underwent surgery to adopt the physical appearance of the opposite sex, and
lived for eight years appearing to be a woman. But those steps did not resolve
his problems and he attempted suicide,” the brief says. “He was diagnosed with
dissociative disorder and was able to resolve his gender dysphoria through
psychotherapy to effectively treat the dissociative disorder. His feelings of
wanting to be the opposite sex went away, and he was able to return to living
with a male appearance and be happy.”
“The former
transgenders wrote: ‘This emerging group of people with gender identity issues
are suffering from emotional, psychological, or social identity discomfort far
deeper than new pronouns can rectify.’”
“Linked complications
could include ‘depressions, anxiety, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive
disorder, dissociative disorder, schizophrenia, body dysmorphic,’ the brief
says.”
“A better course would
be to seek ‘to align one’s mind with reality.’”
These
are testimonies of individuals who have lived the lie and the nightmare. Thank
God for their boldness and love to share their trauma and distress over the
issue of transgenderism. We pray that their testimonies will be heeded by
governmental officials in positions to discourage transgenderism rather than to
encourage it to the detriment of not only our society and children, but to the
individuals who are victimized by lies from their abuse and insecurity and not
reality.
